Waking up and inviting others

by Mellissa Rempfer on February 22, 2018 No comments

I will never forget sitting in Burlingame, CA for a training I thought was going to make me a better coach. “I have a little secret I want to share with you” said Russ Hudson, founder of the Enneagram Institute and now my mentor.

Who doesn’t want to know to be in on the secrets, especially those secrets that reveal deeper truth like the Wizard of Oz is a mere human.

“We have been asleep. We engage in life in an autopilot state and have no idea how we are just a man in a machine.”

I saw there listening to Russ. I engaged in the presencing grounding exercises. I noticed my uncomfortableness with all of this, after all, I was here to be a better coach, to build my business, and charge more money. (Hey, I promised I would be truthful and authentic with all of these blogs :-)).

I am not asleep, I know exactly what I am doing.

So I thought. And by “thinking” I was demonstrating exactly one of the many ways I truly was asleep.

I was asleep to having the wrong center of intelligence do the wrong job.

Imagine these three centers: head, heart, and gut/body/instinctive. Now imagine that the role of the heart center was being done by the head center, or the body center is check out so all the insinctive decisions are done by the heart which is being reactionary.

An easy explanation I heard was the farmer was doing the cook’s job, the cook’s job is doing the stable job, and the the stable person is out working the field. Talk about confusion, not being in alignment, and all kinds of mishaps and challenges.

This is what is happening when we are asleep. We are not being in connection with these centers of intelligences, and we are not aware of how we are on autopilot engaging in both life and in business.

Yet, I was’t asleep (so my ego is telling me). I am this great coach doing ____, ____, and ____. 🙂

To demonstrate the extent how we are asleep, Russ invited us to be aware of when we were listening to other peers give their introductions and just notice when we check out (you know those moments when you were listening, then… time warp/distraction/Charlie Brown’s teacher wha wha wha moment).

Yes, guilty, I checked out, yet, I wasn’t asleep. I am a coach who does transformation work. (HEH!)

Day two of the training, I am walking up to the meeting hall. Russ our teacher is standing by a car and greets me. I was in my own mental world thinking of who knows what on my to do list.

Lovingly caught in the act of being asleep. I then realized I was on autopilot, engaging in thoughts, reactions, and behaviors as I was walking up to the class.

Let’s just say there is a lot of awakening truth in the movie The Matrix.

I am committed to Connection, Compassion, and Awakening Truth. Connection to Presence and how everything unfolds and reveals. Compassion on our souls and our business’s through the growth process. Awakening Truth in all that we have been asleep to and what our brilliance is here to embody.

I would love to here your thoughts below. Share a way you have caught yourself on autopilot (could be driving a car, doing dishes, cooking, you name it).

Till next time!

-Mellissa Rempfer





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Ladybug Wisdom: You are not alone

by Mellissa Rempfer on February 8, 2018 1 comment

Ladybug Wisdom - You are not alone

As business owners, there are times when we may feel like life is just not all super easy and grand. There will be times when we want to shout from a mountaintop our joys and ecstasy. And, then there are times when we gain movement, and then things slow down or halt. Welcome to Ladybug knowledge, you are not alone being a soulful business owner here to make a difference.

Earlier today I was hosting on one of our Gathering of Brilliance Calls, a collective group of mission-minded heart-centered entrepreneurs who have big purposes to fulfill. Today was the wrap up of our cycle before we open up the circle Feb. 5th. Over the last six weeks, each of these amazing business owners made a commitment and goal to do something in their business that you wanted to complete by Jan. 1st, 2018. The call was honest, real, raw, beautifully emotionally filled with gratitude, love, and appreciation. Each person acknowledged the growth in each other, celebrate not only the goals that were met, but the deeper soulful purposeful goals that arise like a connection to a bigger purpose in life, or connection to family members, or pride in getting more done than what they even dreamed was possible.

Ladybug.... As I held the space and listened to each lovely soul and they showed up in their brilliance (personally and in business) ... ladybugs kept coming to me.

My first thought was huh, maybe my next pedicure I am going to ask for black dots like a ladybug, as a smile crept across my face.

Ladybug... ok, really, why does the word ladybug keep coming to me, and I start to get irritated with this unknowing intervention taking up previous mind space. Ah, LADYBUG, got it :-).

The more present I am, the more connected I am to Presence. And when I am present, I get higher level ah ha's of clarity and wisdom, and during our call Ladybug was one of them.

So here is a little ladybug wisdom for you.

"Ladybugs are about metamorphosis, growth and manifestation of ideas and thoughts. It is a time succeed and start something new. Ladybug Beetles have a protective quality that will aid in the ability to socialize and communicate effectively by illuminating problems and situations in the correct perspective. Are you socializing too much or not enough? Are you eating correctly? Now is the time to examine eating habits. Can you identify which stage of development are you in egg/larva/pupa/adult?. Is it time to 'fly'; or walk in life? Ladybugs will show when to hibernate ideas/actions and emerge in opportune moments. Ladybugs will teach persistence with charm, trust in the process, effectiveness of natural defenses, transformation of unwanted fears along with proper movement and actions which allows the regeneration of your spirit to prosper." -

Here are some ladybug wisdom I invite you to apply:​​ 

  • Acknowledge you are the midst of a process, and so is everyone else. You are not alone.
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    Reaching goals, especially soulful goals will have both times of action, and recharge.
  • Trust the process. When you feel like you are not getting the results you want, check in with a trusted friend or colleague and they will give you honest feedback and mirror of how far you have come, and your brilliance.
  • We don't need to create, add, or enhance any form of protection for ourselves or businesses. We already have built-in natural defenses, and our head, heart, and body will share with us when it is time to be in action or pause. Fear doesn't need to drive the show. 
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    Finally, surround yourself with people who want the best for you. People to encourage, challenge, inspire, hold you accountable, and fill in the missing skill sets that are not your specialty.

Reaching goals, especially soulful goals will have both times of action and recharge. @GivingExcellenc

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Surround yourself with people who want the best for you. People to encourage, challenge, inspire, hold you accountable, and fill in the missing skill sets that are not your specialty. This is Gathering of Brilliance. @GivingExcellenc

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Ladybug wisdom: Ladybugs are about metamorphosis, growth and manifestation of ideas and thoughts. It is a time succeed and start something new.  @GivingExcellenc

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Now is the time for metamorphis. Step into the growth and manifestation of both you and business's soul purpose. 

I would like to invite you to join me for a FREE webinar training, "SMART Goals on Purpose: Big Dreams, Big Purpose, Big Profits in 2018. You can find out more here or save your seat below. 

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Here's to you and your business's brilliance and excellence!

-Mellissa Rempfer

Mellissa Rempfer, MA.ed AET

Mellissa Rempfer works to unite the Passion, Mission, Profession, and Vocation of the heart-centered entrepreneur.  Giving Excellence, is a coaching, training, and group facilitation services company dedicated to bringing connection, compassion, and awakening truth to the heart and soul of business. And she does all of this while travelling North America with her three-dog family, giving talks and finding inspiration from people, places, and experiences that touch her heart.

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